Thomas Merton on the giving of gifts

"... it is also true that God often measures His gifts by our desire to receive them, and by our cooperation with His grace, and the Holy Spirit will not waste any of His gifts on people who have little or no interest in them. "

Is God a God who gives randomly and to all who ask? Is God a God who will not waste? Is God selective? He is not partial, I think. Here is a further quote by Thomas Merton:

"Infused contemplation, on the contrary, is a powerful means of sanctification. It is the work of love and nothing is more effective in increasing our love for God. In fact, infused contemplation is intimately connected with the pure and perfect love of God which is God's greatest gift to the soul. It is deep and intimate knowledge of God by a union of love -- a union in which we learn things about Him that those who have not received such a gift will never discover until they enter heaven.
Therefore, if anyone should ask, 'Who may desire this gift and pray for it?' the answer is obvious: everybody."